Dealing with Your Boyfriend’s Female Friends
So, your boyfriend has a girlfriend. By girlfriend of course I mean a friend who is female. If your boyfriend or husband has an actual “girlfriend” you’ll probably want to skip this article and head straight to the article about how to break up with your cheating significant other. No, what we’re discussing here are friends of the opposite sex. If you’re trying to determine if your man’s female friend is a threat to your relationship there are a few questions you should ask yourself.
The first thing you need to ask yourself is, are you jealous? They don’t call jealousy the green eyed monster for nothing. It is a powerful emotion and can cloud your judgment. Don’t assume that your boyfriend’s female friends are trying to get in between the two of you. Take some time to observe the interactions between your partner and his female friends. Chances are she is not trying to cause trouble or break up your relationship. Watching the interactions between the two of them can help you determine how much time he’s spending with her, how flirtatious they may be with each other, and most importantly what your gut is telling you a situation. Women’s intuition is a powerful thing, if your instinct is telling you that your boyfriend’s female friend wants to be more than just friends with him, you should bring the issue up with him immediately.
This leads me to another important consideration. When it comes right down to it, if your man loves and respects you and is committed to you, his female friends can bat their eyes till the cows come home. It won’t make a bit of difference to him because you are the one he wants, not her. This kind of trust is an increasingly rare commodity in a partner but if it exists between you and your main squeeze, you have nothing to worry about.
The flip side of this coin is that if your boyfriend or husband seems to enjoy the advances of his female friends a little too much. It may be time for a frank discussion about what not to do if you don’t want to get kicked to the curb. There is nothing wrong with feeling flattered. Everybody, especially if they’ve been in a relationship for an extended period of time, may want to feel like they’ve still got “it” and the advances of stranger may fill that need. However, women who are friends with you partner should know that he is in a relationship and respect him, and themselves, enough not to pursue him romantically. Your man should be the first one to speak up and say, “Hey, it’s not appropriate for you to be acting this way and if you can’t respect that, then we can’t be friends.”
This is not a complicated issue. If your boyfriend refuses to shut down the romantic flirtations of his female friends, it’s not the other woman you should be worried about. On the other hand, if your boyfriend’s relationships with other females bother you for no logical reason, you need to take a look at yourself and figure out why you feel threatened and do your best to resolve the issue.